the pain, the dark & other things


Mom Cowsill always looked pretty miserable. There was something flinty and vacant about her, like one of your mother’s friends you would see at a backyard barbeque, drinking gin and tonics and casting glances at her drunken husband, looking like all she wanted to do was smash him in the face and run off. The Cowsills were all lightness, but there was something damaged in Barbara’s eyes. The boys would gleam, and little Susan would be off to the side doing her kid version of the shing-a-ling, and it was bubbly all right. What was mom even doing there? Didn’t anyone realize that any chance The Cowsills had to be anything but trivial and ephemeral was undermined by having her in the group? Susan, ok, she could be a stand-in for all the young girls who wanted to be accepted by their big brothers and their big brother’s friends, and she wasn’t going to be 10 years old forever. But it was obvious that mom was wrecking the whole thing.

Turns out it wasn’t only mom steering the band off course. A new documentary airing on Showtime, Family Band: The Cowsills Story, paints a grim, disturbing portrait of disfunction: dad Cowsill was a deluded tyrant in the mold of Murry Wilson and Joe Jackson, who whipped the Beach Boys and the Jackson 5 into shape. He brutalized them physically and emotionally, molested Susan sexually, fired their hit-making producer and their lead singer/oldest brother, blew every business opportunity, and left the band in complete chaos. Of course, some of the kids turned to drugs and disillusionment, the group’s pop success didn’t last beyond the first string of singles, the money had mysteriously vanished, and everyone was left wondering what happened.

The movie tries to make the case that had dad Cowsill not been such a monster, had the band been able to follow their own musical path, everything would’ve been dandy, and the ride would’ve been smoother and longer, but it’s hard to pin the rap on him alone. Who knows? Apparently, the original four-member band of brothers wanted to be a real rock band. Of course they did. It was the mid-sixties, they saw The Beatles on the Sullivan show, and they had a musical knack and an ambitious dad (sort of like The Shaggs’ sister act, except for the musical knack part). You hear the group’s single on the tiny indie Joda Records, “All I Really Wanta Be Is Me” (good luck with that) b/w “And The Next Day Too,” and it’s like a thousand other records from 1965, folk-rock-garage on the A side, Beatlesque balladry on the B, and it didn’t make any kind of noise, and neither did the summery send-off “Most of All” on Philips, and those were the pre-mom, pre-Artie Kornfeld (their creative svengali and co-writer/producer of “The Rain, The Park & Other Things”), pre-MGM Records, undiluted Cowsills. They were The Wonders, or they would have been if “All I Really Wanta Be Is Me” were “That Thing You Do.”

Without all the what if’s, there isn’t much reason for a movie: there were countless groups with a bunch of pop hits in the mid-late ‘60s who didn’t survive post-Woodstock, and they weren’t all beaten up by their fathers (I’ve never heard any gossip about Jerry Lewis throttling Gary, for example), but they quickly became dated, and if you were an un-hip act to begin with (those milk commercials were no help), reinvention was a tough assignment. After “Hair” hit #2 in 1969, they followed up with a single called “The Prophecy of Daniel and John The Divine,” and whose fault was that? Realistically, what future was there for a wholesome family group who were the real-life model for the fictional Partridge Family (now imagine Jack Cassidy as the patriarch of the Partridges, prone to alcoholic rage and ritual humiliations…that’s entertainment!)? Family Band is nothing but sad: the brother who wasn’t allowed in the group because dad hated him, Susan fighting off dad’s advances and moving out of the house to live with a brother at 11 years old, the brother who died in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. The horrific story grips you, not because events derailed a career that might have well fizzled out anyway, but because there’s always fascination with what lies beneath the shiny surface.

2 responses to “the pain, the dark & other things

  1. Old Guy rant #241: This is why I preferred the pre-tabloid days (and often preferred not meeting my musical favorites). I prefer to just remember them as a group that a few bubbly hits (and had that adorable albeit way too young Susan).

  2. I was born in Alliance, Ohio. A stones throw from Canton where Susan was born six years prior. I was raised in Canton and unbeknownst to me at the time, lived mere blocks away from the Cowsill’s who resided by Myers lake in the corner of Whipple avenue and twelfth street. By the time I knew (or was allowed to know) of them, they had already moved. I became a fan as soon as I heard “The Rain, The Park, and Other Things”. They filled in at a weekend music festival once for a band that had cancelled and my folks were there to see the likes of Flatt and Scruggs, Johnny Cash and Dolly Parton. When the mod Cowsills took the stage, Susan and Mini Mom (Barbara) in gogo boots, the boys in bell bottoms and shaggy hair my folks decided they would take a break from the festivities as it was not their kind of music. NONE of the music that played that weekend was for me… until them. On their walk back to the camper a conversation took place that led my father to believe my mother had either lost her mind, her hearing or both. “These Cowsills aren’t that bad” she told him. Furthermore, the sweet sounds and harmony they had created drew me from the camper where I had been trying hard to ignore the refrains of Jed Clampett’s ballad and working on yet another failed model car. I met my parents at the halfway point and the three of us returned to the show to not only watch the Cowsills set, but wound up wishing to hear more of them. Without my suggesting it my mother went to inquire when they would be on again and I fell in love. There behind the stage having a cool drink, was Susan. Six years my senior, but puppy love was in the air. I followed her around the rest of the weekend like a lost puppy and I’m certain she never noticed me. My parents spent the next couple days in conversation that I could be part of.. all about the Cowsills.
    Of course time changes things and as I grew I moved on to have my own life grounded mostly in reality and not in the fantasy of marrying a pop queen and joining her family band. I have seen the documentary Family band.., and plan to order the DVD. The film did several things for me that other documentaries had. It made me feel so many emotions from happiness to sad, nostalgia to anger. It was powerful! It also did something no other documentary has EVER done. At the age of 49 it brought me to sobbing tears, for the life and childhoods these talented kids had to endure. Then tears of joy, to see how many of them survived, and kept right on playing for no other reason than the sublime love of music. I say put aside the hatred for Bud, the disdain for Barbara who did what she was forced to do. Put aside the pity for the children who’ve survived and the grief for those lost… and just enjoy the music they were born to create.

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